Many children, especially at the beginning of the school year, refuse to go to school. So far everything is normal. It may well be because they change their cycle, because after the summer holidays, Easter or Christmas it is difficult for them to resume their old routine or because they join a new school. But what happens when the months go by and one day your son told you that He does not want to go to school because he is bored. If this is your case, as it happened to me a few years ago, here are some tips to deal with this situation.
Some time ago, the moment I was waiting for came to me, which I had been thinking about for a long time, and which I knew was going to take me to a time of reflection. That situation that comes to all parents, and that is when our children tell us: "Dad, mom ... I don't want to go to school! I'm bored, I don't like it ...".
In my case it came in the first year of primary school. Like most parents, I reacted with a: “But what do you say? If school is a lot of fun, you learn a lot and have a lot of friends. " Although the truth is that inside of you you know that you say it to half convince him, without taking it too seriously, thinking more about having a quick breakfast so as not to be late than anything else.
Knowing that they are usually interested and specific comments from children and that it must be taken into account that in primary there is a clear methodological and activity change, which is the antipodes of what they had been doing in Early Childhood Education, I kept thinking about what makes a large percentage of children feel this at school. Why is the child bored at school?
What if, aside from the children's interested comments, we scratch the surface a bit and look at the bottom? We found?
Several types of questions arose ... Are our teachers "attractive" enough to keep the enthusiasm of their students high?? Is school a motivating place? Is an adequate methodology used according to the maturation process of the students? Are you more concerned about finishing the syllabus or adapting to the rhythm of the students? Are they teaching concepts beyond the children's ability? What is or is not done at school to make this change?
If we answer these questions each based on our experience, it is very likely that we will have very worrying answers. I don't want it to seem like an article where the responsibility goes to our teachers or it seems that I want to blame them, that's why I started to wonder as a parent.
And we, as mothers and fathers, What opinion do we convey to our children about their school or teacher? What support do we give the teacher? Do we help our children understand what education is and why they go to school? How do I show myself at home to my responsibilities?
Here are some ideas that I reflected on after the questions I asked myself, which I wanted to share with you and which should be put into practice at home to avoid getting a bad concept of school and teachers from home.
1. Always speak with positive language from the school and the teacher
Speaking ill of them only fuels their misconception or feeling of boredom. Maintain cordial relations with the teachers, so that they see them in a close way.
2. Be optimistic at home about your habits, responsibilities and work
Children learn more by imitation than by practice. If they see that you have a positive attitude, they will tend to emulate you.
3. Give utility and value to what is learned-taught at school
Any comment you make that disparages or derogatory about the content he learns demotivates him, and gives him an excuse for not wanting to learn it.
4. Take an interest in their school day
In addition to the stronger subjects, there are others that may be more in line with your tastes. You can also ask about their friends or teachers from a more emotional level. Not showing interest in their day to day at school is the worst thing you can do.
5. Become a help and not a threat
Confidence is key in this regard. If your child fears some "retaliation", he will not trust when telling you about a problem, or asking for help, and will increase his discomfort with the school.
And, above all, stay in a plane where you can have a global vision and with an open, positive and optimistic attitude that help your child change his vision of school.
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